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Should I be patient in building this connection with Ashley?

@MatthewK10 days ago· 0 views· 3
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My name is Matthew (April 28, 1992), and I am a young adult trying to navigate life’s mysteries. The past six years have been tumultuous for me in love due to past unfaithfulness and dishonesty.
Ashley (June 6, 1989) has been my coworker at the United States Postal Service for the last two years. When she first started, she never really interacted with me. I didn’t think much of it because most people at work keep to themselves and don't make an effort to build rapport anyway.
On November 8, 2025, I received a Facebook friend request from Ashley. I thought it was odd, but I accepted it. After that, our interactions started gaining traction, which encouraged me because I didn’t want to dwell on past disappointments. Naturally, I am attracted to Ashley, and I feel drawn to her in a way that makes me want to build a deeper connection. She is mysterious, but she is also a very sweet-hearted person.
Sometimes when I cross paths with her at work or see her from a distance, she will stare at me intently, almost waiting for me to lock eyes with her. It is as if she gleams with excitement when she sees me, and the feeling is mutual. She doesn’t know this, but I always look for her at work, hoping our paths cross so we can interact.
Even though my connection with Ashley is still new, I am open to exploring my feelings for her. I hope she feels the same way or at least that she is curious about me. I don’t know if she is shy or afraid of rejection, but there is a timidness about her that might be slowing our progression. Our conversations at work are limited due to the environment, but I always try to optimize my opportunities to interact with her.
Several weeks ago, I waved to Ashley from a distance. I thought she saw me, but she didn't wave back. I didn't think much of it, but shortly after, she saw me sitting at my case and came over to say, "I wanted you to know that I saw you, and I wanted to come over here, wave back, and say hello!" My smile was uncontainable, and I thanked her. It meant the world to me that she went out of her way to do that. Honestly, who does that?
Ashley also mentioned that she bought a Nintendo Switch 2 and suggested I get one so she can add me as a friend and play games together with her friend Emily. I definitely want to do that to build our bond outside of work.
The thing that frustrates me about Ashley is when she leaves my messages on "read" on Facebook Messenger. I dont message her often, but when the conversation has potential to gain traction, the conversation will dissipate. She has poor social media etiquette, which makes me feel unimportant. It might seem petty, but it triggers a negative reaction in me for some reason. I could just be overthinking this area.
Either way, I am excited about the possibility of building something real with Ashley because she seems like a quality woman with genuine intentions.

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@aquaage4 days ago

Hey Matthew! very happy for you and the both of you sound like you both are feeling the connection. I would advise not rushing this, do to your past you don't want this connection to "prove" something to you. Fear and anxiety and can make any little thing seem huge or as proof that all those tumultuous year were deserving. But see ashley as a new start, don't compare her to your past and don't put her on a pedestal. As your connection grows, I recommend you do some sort of releasing rituals of any limiting beliefs you have on yourself and the past six years of love. You deserve to see things with new eyes! Best of luck!

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@LeahLightspringVerified Advisor2 days ago

Matthew, I do see encouraging signs. Ashley sent the friend request, made a point of acknowledging your wave, and invited you to play games with her. Those actions suggest that she enjoys connecting with you, although it is still too early to know whether her interest is romantic or friendly.

Being left on read may say more about Ashley, her fears, and her past experiences than it does about how she feels about you. She may be hesitant about becoming vulnerable, uncertain about how to move the connection forward, or simply more comfortable interacting in person. I would pay closer attention to how she consistently treats you than to her messaging habits alone.

Spiritually, this connection may be inviting you to reopen your heart while practicing patience and discernment. Follow up on her invitation or casually ask her to spend time together. Let her actions and reciprocity reveal what is possible instead of trying to interpret every signal.

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@parwaVerified Advisor21 hours ago

Hey Matthew, my name is Parwa.
Looking at your connection, it seems that both of you have personal areas you want to defend, and this cautious attitude can result in not opening the paths for you both and just being in the observation and evaluation field. Things can really flow nicely between you both, but you need to gain confidence and step out of your comfort zone.
Best wishes!

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